The word, feeling, mood of the week is Shame. Epiphany type things occur when you actually recognize an emotion, feel it, and make attempts to deal with it. Happiness or anger or sadness sure, but I'm talking about one of the lesser attractive emotions. Major ick stuff.
Food stuffs it down. Being a good little girl stuffs it down. Following your eating plan perfectly stuffs it down. Excelling at work/job/marriage/community might even stuff it down. Temporary fixes. But it eventually becomes this pack that is so stuffed full of shame that it weighs you down and nearly breaks your back.
How do you deal with it? What is the remedy? What causes it? What is the healthy way to process shame? How does your self energy work through the shame stuff? How do you seperate your self energy from being a 'good girl' or a successful dieter or a good ______(fill in the blank)? How can shame be felt, dealt, and released? I mean really, completely released forever AND a day?
Seriously, I'm asking.
A Full & Balanced Day {Canyon Ranch}
12 minutes ago
Yes it can! I do what I call "stomp and state." It's a method that combines movement with expressing your feelings out loud. I wrote a blog post about it a while ago. http://www.kclanderson.com/releasefear
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There are, I think, two types of guilt & shame. One is constructive and works to arouse our consciences and create repentance (change, to turn away from and go toward something different) in our habits. The other type is destructive; it berates and punishes and attacks the person (e.g., "you are bad") rather than the action (e.g., "that was a terrible choice:), leaving hopelessness and damage in its wake and perpetuating the stuffing cycle. Both of these types of shame are found when we recognize something about ourselves that we don't like.
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